Tinluver

Consider yourself lucky.I have a brand new 08 C2 and my wife complains her knees hurt from getting in and out.If a cup of coffee made her comfortable I would cringe but would be glad she was enjoying the car as much as me.(on the other hand maybe I'm better off this way?)

p-cardriver

Jeez, a lot of emotion over spilled milk (with coffee in it).
A couple of thoughts.
1. does she value a really clean and pristine car. If not, you'll be fighting this all up hill. have you found the McDonalds wrappers and stranded fries yet?
2. if she appreciates a clean car, does she know how to detail the interior? A little vacuuming and maybe some scrubbing of the mats and seats, plus getting the sticky off of the cup holder areas might help her appreciate being more careful.
3. If the car is already a mess, you might either get it detailed for her (and leave the receipt where she can see what this costs), or encourage her to get it done herself. Find an excuse like an upcoming event where you want to arrive in style, or a trip that you want to start (or end) clean.
4. coffee, cell phones, iPods, Nav and other distractions are just a part of modern car life, even with a manual transmission. Obviously caution is appropriate when multi-tasking in the car, but we all might as well accept that lots of drivers have lots of things going on in their cars on the roads.
5. If this is really important to you, let her do as she pleases, keep your mouth shut, and detail it yourself for her, perhaps weekly. You get a pristine car to your standards, she gets her coffee.
6. Is this car more important to you than your wife and relationship with her? That might be what she's "hearing" from you.

So, yeah, I think you're being too harsh and unyielding. There are better options, IMO, than arguing over this.

Just my $0.02.

p-cardriver

Coochas

I hate to pigpile on ya jgriff, but I think you need to rethink a few things here. I bought my wife a Cayenne for her birthday last year and I could care less what she eats/drinks in it: it's her car.

I like Bill's idea: get her a travel mug and a gift certificate to SBucks....and maybe an "I'm sorry." I drink a hot beverage EVERY morning in my 911. Get her the Porsche travel mug - I use one and it's great although not very large by U.S. standards!

dndodd

Damaged cars are easier to fix then Damaged marriages. But I hear your side.

NVRANUF

I'm guessing someone didn't learn a valuable lesson from this....

not saying who though.....

gota911

Having a huge fight over coffee? I think you have lost your perspective about what is truly important, but that is a another story.

As others have suggested, get her a travel mug with a sliding seal that will open/close the cup to allow it to be sealed when not in use. That will minimize/eliminate the spills which can occur when the cup is in the cup holders.

When you give her the mug, apologize for getting into the fight about the coffee. Remind her that you are (as many of here are) obsessive about keeping the cars clean and tell her you are working to be a little more mellow in that area (even if you are not).

If that doesn't work, get a divorce, let her have the Cayman and half of your net worth, and revel in the fact that your "coffee issue" will be eliminated!

points

Now thats funny.

pred8or

Its just a car! It should have a cup holder inbetween the seats! I have finally decided to buy a C4S even though I hate the cupholders. Buying brand new and I plan on driving it through the New England winter, with coffee , and with dogs!

Rick in Colorado

For a women's perspective, I showed this thread to my wife. Her first reaction uncovered a point not previously made here: "If she is on her way to work, how can he be paying all the bills? Is it volunteer work?"

Coochas

I showed the post to my wife and she was horrified!

NYNick

Wow Griff! Quite the sacrifice! You're driving a 997S and she's driving a CaymanS instead of you driving a GT3 or Turbo? Sounds a bit one sided to me my friend. I do think you're being unreasonable. It's her DD, and it's a CAR, even though you're paying for it. Putting rules on wives is quite, I don't know, unrealistic? How many rules does she put on you? If you didn't want her to drink coffee in the car, you should've bought her a Pilot(see below, 105k miles, mobile purse). But then again, where does all this rules stuff end? Let her drink her coffee. Pick your battles wisely, my friend.

ELUSIVE

I showed this thread to my wife as well.
After reading the 1st post her exact comment was "Wow, what an a$$hole". Then she ranted for awhile about how she hates Rennlist even more now. Then she agreed with most people on the board that a marriage is way more important than a stupid car.

ELUSIVE

That is a GREAT observation.

sandwedge

You could buy her a house next...........in close proximity to her office. "Now that you only have a 5-minute commute, can the coffeee wait till you get out of the car?"

WAC

I agree with your concern about the safety issue of driving with a big cup of coffee. But, not trying to me mean to you here but I think you've got bigger problems to deal with than spilled coffee. Perhaps you already realized that when you posted. The attitude that someone can dictate to another adult their behaviour based on a marital relationship, financial provision or "gift" of transportation is at least a generation out of date.