joninoc

Having just purchased my first Porsche I can't drive it enough. My wife and I drove it to the in-laws for an Easter get-together. Both her brothers had nothing but nice things to say about the car. Everyone was out front at one point and having a great time. Both of their wives were there as well. Neither one of them had one word to say about the car; completely ignored it. Both of them do well and have nice things, live in nice homes, etc. But not one word. Has this happened to any of you? I would congratulate someone on their just purchased used Kia. Today some 10 year old kid rode by on his bike and yelled "cool car mister". A complete stranger can say something nice, but not a relative? I guess I should just let it go. Just venting here.

Crazy Canuck

Can't pick your relatives.






Nice car mister.

KeninBlaine

Jealousy, resentment,.....

cello

If they have a 'keeping up with the Joneses' mentality, you just upped the ante on an "extravagance". Some people find that hard to deal with for all the unsaid things it says (to them at least). There is nothing you can do about it as it is not about you but about them, you see. Enjoy you car!!

Crazy Canuck

there was a long thread about this very subject last year ...

Searchmeister Ben???

ELUSIVE

I think you are over-reacting. Did you buy the car to get comments or to drive an amazing sports car?
Maybe they could care less about your Porsche.
Maybe they each had new purses. Did you comment on them?

geof

There could be all sorts of reasons- Maybe the wives really don't care about cars. Maybe they actually liked it, but didn't realize you would want to be complimented on it (some people do prefer to keep a low profile, after all). Maybe they disapproved slightly, but decided to keep quiet rather than say anything. It seems that the guys liked it though. This reminds me of a saying I heard somewhere- if you want guys to compliment your car, get a Porsche. If you want gals to compliment it, get a Land Rover.

All that matters is whether you enjoy it or not!

Nice car, by the way!!

Ucube

Well, let me play the devil's advocate here. Why do you feel as though the wives are required to say something nice to you about your new purchase? After all, they didn't say anything derogatory. Are you seeking affirmation or endorsement from them of your toy? Sure it'd be that much sweeter if all your loved ones shared your joy and joined in on the celebration, but do you expect everyone in your social circle to bask in your glow? I wouldn't consider the lack of acknowledgment to be rude, that is unless you also expect the same for every one of your big ticket items -- lavish vacation, new furniture suite, big-screen TV, etc.

Remember, the Porsche 911 is our dream.

BlueJay73

You can pick your spouse, but the devil picks your in-laws...

westlaker

Last thing these shrews want to do is allow their hubbys to buy such a thing. They can't act like they'd enjoy it at all.

jcnesq

That is probably at least half the truth! And beyond that, my guess is that they couldn't give a damn about cars, so it may not have even registered in their minds to say anything (I bet you would feel the same way about their new purses, at least I would).

In my experience, there are "car people" (the great majority of which are men, but at least some rare females), and "non-car people". Non-car people just don't think about cars in the same way - very hard for them to get excited about them.

My now former brother-in-law was always great to have around because I could talk to him about business and women (but not cars). It was always a joy when his brother showed up for a family function - though he is a Corvette guy, he was still a "car guy", and we could talk for hours about cars.

mglobe

I really don't understand how not complimenting you on your car is rude. Not everyone is all that impressed with/interested in cars. Even if they drive nice cars themselves, they may just not be all that much into cars as things to be admired.

A better question to ask might be why are you so troubled by someone not complimenting you on your car? Did you buy it for you to enjoy, or for you to enjoy impressing people with it?

tkids

https://rennlist.com/forums/997-forum/405427-my-kid-ratted-me-out.html

sclemmons

She's just not that into you. . . . . . .

. . . .r car.

DreamCarrera

That is a good one!!!




BTW, "cool car mister".