how would u convince your wife to buy things?
10-18-2007, 11:19 PM
#31
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maybe you should of tried telling her you where gonna buy one for 25k and then when you went they had a deal you couldnt let go by. then show up with both and ask her if she ready to go shopping.lol
10-20-2007, 03:30 AM
#38
tell your wife you are very unhappy.....and that you don't feel like a man that you feel you have been working hard and have nothing to really personally show for..... you need to buy a sports car or 2 (greedy!!)...you have given her all she needed and wanted and didn't really need!...and now it is your turn....this is how I bought my Porsche, my 62inc HD TV, my surround, my fat breitling, my porsche design keychain, my 3 iphones okay I gave her one and if my kid does well in school (which he doesn't) he gets one as well.
Damn this worked really well!! Because I didn't even mention everything yet!!
Damn this worked really well!! Because I didn't even mention everything yet!!
10-20-2007, 10:45 AM
#40
I have always been upfront with my wife on any large purchase. In selling her a 2 car purchase would be:
-"The 911 SC is for AX, it would make US better drivers without all the modern gizmos of antilock, traction control to cover up our mistakes."
-"The Boxster is for the track. The modern suspension and safety devices are needed at higher speeds. Plus the new skillset learned from the SC transfers over to the boxster and we will run much faster."
-Finally. "Remember how Jill said you were slow..." This is to setup for additional 25k for future modifications...
10-20-2007, 11:06 AM
#41
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Give Her one ! 
10-20-2007, 12:43 PM
#42
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As my wife is sitting in the tv room watching Jerry McGuire movie, so there is the proper time for you to introduce your idea and this would not be one of them, however if you have no time for the proper setup of a "sting operation" it will be tough. For me it is all about looking responsibile and unselfish first. I bought her a car first then it was easy for me, simply a matter of checks and balances. Good Luck.
10-20-2007, 01:27 PM
#43
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I probably shouldn't reply to this as I can't give you a cool, hip, "guy" response. But decisions like this set standards of behavior in relationships and come back to haunt you--especially if she thinks it is something that you did to her rather than with her.
While timing is important for any discussion, consider what do you want your relationship founded on? Either of you should be allowed or encouraged to do things if they make sense. Do you want your relationship founded on openness/honesty/tolerance or trying to trick each other? I can think of a variety of scenarios where (I would bet) you would prefer that she doesn't do things, planning just to apologize later if you find out. Within a decsion where you get what you want, how are you looking out for what's good for her? Knowing the answer to that question may create the conversation & the outcome you want. Don't get permission. You don't want a parent/child relationship. Just respect each other and create agreement on decisions that affect both of you. It's neither hard nor complicated.
(I've managed to do it every wrong way possible over the years and have the divorce papers to prove it.)
While timing is important for any discussion, consider what do you want your relationship founded on? Either of you should be allowed or encouraged to do things if they make sense. Do you want your relationship founded on openness/honesty/tolerance or trying to trick each other? I can think of a variety of scenarios where (I would bet) you would prefer that she doesn't do things, planning just to apologize later if you find out. Within a decsion where you get what you want, how are you looking out for what's good for her? Knowing the answer to that question may create the conversation & the outcome you want. Don't get permission. You don't want a parent/child relationship. Just respect each other and create agreement on decisions that affect both of you. It's neither hard nor complicated.
(I've managed to do it every wrong way possible over the years and have the divorce papers to prove it.)
10-20-2007, 01:48 PM
#44
Team Owner
I probably shouldn't reply to this as I can't give you a cool, hip, "guy" response. But decisions like this set standards of behavior in relationships and come back to haunt you--especially if she thinks it is something that you did to her rather than with her.
While timing is important for any discussion, consider what do you want your relationship founded on? Either of you should be allowed or encouraged to do things if they make sense. Do you want your relationship founded on openness/honesty/tolerance or trying to trick each other? I can think of a variety of scenarios where (I would bet) you would prefer that she doesn't do things, planning just to apologize later if you find out. Within a decsion where you get what you want, how are you looking out for what's good for her? Knowing the answer to that question may create the conversation & the outcome you want. Don't get permission. You don't want a parent/child relationship. Just respect each other and create agreement on decisions that affect both of you. It's neither hard nor complicated.
(I've managed to do it every wrong way possible over the years and have the divorce papers to prove it.)
While timing is important for any discussion, consider what do you want your relationship founded on? Either of you should be allowed or encouraged to do things if they make sense. Do you want your relationship founded on openness/honesty/tolerance or trying to trick each other? I can think of a variety of scenarios where (I would bet) you would prefer that she doesn't do things, planning just to apologize later if you find out. Within a decsion where you get what you want, how are you looking out for what's good for her? Knowing the answer to that question may create the conversation & the outcome you want. Don't get permission. You don't want a parent/child relationship. Just respect each other and create agreement on decisions that affect both of you. It's neither hard nor complicated.
(I've managed to do it every wrong way possible over the years and have the divorce papers to prove it.)
And I'll say it again: buying TWO P-cars for $25k only ensures that you'll be "investing" a lot more money into them in the future, and that will only serve to make her more upset about the cars. IMO, the minimum budget to buy two Porsches would be about $40k, unless you enjoy being nickel-and-dimed for as long as you own the cars.
10-20-2007, 02:22 PM
#45
she tricked me into having kids...telling me how wonderful they are and that they would enrich my life....well none of that. but you are right honesty in a relationship will make it last...and keeping your you-know-what in your pants is pretty helpful as well....finances and cheating are the 2 biggest divorse reasons in the world!