How do you guys justify Porsche expenses to the wife?
06-19-2002, 03:37 PM
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How do you guys justify Porsche expenses to the wife?
I don't get any flack from her on fixing the car up and adding little stuff, but she doesn't understand the value of a DE event, for which I am saving. I can always lay the smack down (figuratively of course) as I'm the bread winner, but I'd be driving a red dog house around the race track, and that's no fun. Any advice? I'm not going ape $hit with the mods so she really doesn't have it as bad as others' wives I'm sure 
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06-19-2002, 03:49 PM
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A bottle of wine, a nice poem and questions like, "What are you thinking right now?" always makes them forget what it was they were upset about. A surprise picnic or a full body massage with exotic oils (you know, girl stuff) always seems to re-program their thought patterns.
We need Porsches, they need attention. We need DE events, they need compassion. We need more horsepower, they need more time to talk about their feelings. It's all about balance!
If you pay "extra" attention to her, she won't pay attention to those lil' things (like spending $$ on the Porsche) as much.
Just a suggestion. I'm not saying you don't pay enough attention or are not a great husband, but we, as men, can always be better (according to the ladies).
944S Boyeee
We need Porsches, they need attention. We need DE events, they need compassion. We need more horsepower, they need more time to talk about their feelings. It's all about balance!
If you pay "extra" attention to her, she won't pay attention to those lil' things (like spending $$ on the Porsche) as much.
Just a suggestion. I'm not saying you don't pay enough attention or are not a great husband, but we, as men, can always be better (according to the ladies).
944S Boyeee
06-19-2002, 03:50 PM
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jleake:
I FEEL YOUR PAIN!
I have a Porsche fund (separate savings account). That helps me, but the problem this year was: I blew my Porsche fund for 2002 already in January!!I'm already over $5k in Porsche related expenses, mostly maintenance and safety/track upgrades.
When I approach Kim, my wife about yet another Porsche related expense, she usually does the roll eyes bit, and then says, "That's it. After this, the Porsche fund is dry. You are cut off." But she says that every time I say I need this... or I want that... Bottom line: Kim's very understanding with my obsession. BTW: I don't think the "But I'm the bread-winner" route would ever work to anybody's benefit, so it's not worth trying that avenue!
I did buy her a very expensive birthday gift, and we are going to put serious money into her car next week (new tranny & steering rack!), so that kinda balances it out.
Two bits of advise:
1. Be honest with your wife. She is, after all, your soul mate (hopefully). Cars come and go, but a good wife: you gotta hold on to that!
2. Be willing to compromise. I'd love to attend ten DE events this year, but I'm ok with going to six. If you approach it that way, she'll probably be more willing to accept your expenses. And perhaps you can get her involved in DE?!? (My wife hates to drive, so that won't be a solution for my situation!)
Just my $0.42. Good luck!
-Z.
I FEEL YOUR PAIN!
I have a Porsche fund (separate savings account). That helps me, but the problem this year was: I blew my Porsche fund for 2002 already in January!!I'm already over $5k in Porsche related expenses, mostly maintenance and safety/track upgrades.
When I approach Kim, my wife about yet another Porsche related expense, she usually does the roll eyes bit, and then says, "That's it. After this, the Porsche fund is dry. You are cut off." But she says that every time I say I need this... or I want that... Bottom line: Kim's very understanding with my obsession. BTW: I don't think the "But I'm the bread-winner" route would ever work to anybody's benefit, so it's not worth trying that avenue!
I did buy her a very expensive birthday gift, and we are going to put serious money into her car next week (new tranny & steering rack!), so that kinda balances it out.
Two bits of advise:
1. Be honest with your wife. She is, after all, your soul mate (hopefully). Cars come and go, but a good wife: you gotta hold on to that!
2. Be willing to compromise. I'd love to attend ten DE events this year, but I'm ok with going to six. If you approach it that way, she'll probably be more willing to accept your expenses. And perhaps you can get her involved in DE?!? (My wife hates to drive, so that won't be a solution for my situation!)
Just my $0.42. Good luck!
-Z.
06-19-2002, 03:51 PM
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Try taking her with you... Once she gets up to speed in the car too - SAFELY - you'll be saving for the two of you for more events.
HTH!
(If she's not into that driving stuff, then the wine, poems, flowers for no apparant reasons, etc can work wonders.)
HTH!
(If she's not into that driving stuff, then the wine, poems, flowers for no apparant reasons, etc can work wonders.)
06-19-2002, 04:01 PM
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[quote]Originally posted by 944S Boyeee:
<strong>A bottle of wine, a nice poem and questions like, "What are you thinking right now?" always makes them forget what it was they were upset about. A surprise picnic or a full body massage with exotic oils (you know, girl stuff) always seems to re-program their thought patterns.
944S Boyeee</strong><hr></blockquote>
If I do these things for my wife it is a red flag. a surprise picnic and full body massage would be countered with a "what did you do or what did you buy?"
I have found that as long as there are no external changes to the car she has no clue what is under the hood. I also don't have parts deliverd to the house.
<strong>A bottle of wine, a nice poem and questions like, "What are you thinking right now?" always makes them forget what it was they were upset about. A surprise picnic or a full body massage with exotic oils (you know, girl stuff) always seems to re-program their thought patterns.
944S Boyeee</strong><hr></blockquote>
If I do these things for my wife it is a red flag. a surprise picnic and full body massage would be countered with a "what did you do or what did you buy?"
I have found that as long as there are no external changes to the car she has no clue what is under the hood. I also don't have parts deliverd to the house.
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06-19-2002, 04:07 PM
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Do what I do whenever possible. (Exhaust tip) pay cash (strut tower brace) pay cash (powder coated calipers, cross drilled rotors) pay cash. Plus, you sometimes get a discount! Then, do what they do. A few months later they may notice the new wheels, etc. Say these aren't new, I've had them a long time!
Anyway, I mix in home improvements between purchases. New roof, wheel refinishing. Front walk and steps, full detail and wet sanding for acid rain problem. Getting the picture? Try this, grasshopper, then try and ****** the pebble from my hand . . .
Anyway, I mix in home improvements between purchases. New roof, wheel refinishing. Front walk and steps, full detail and wet sanding for acid rain problem. Getting the picture? Try this, grasshopper, then try and ****** the pebble from my hand . . .
06-19-2002, 04:08 PM
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I've just avoided getting married, simple solution....
Actually I've lost girl friends over cars, when I was in high school I was restoring a Datsun 280Z and well I kept having random failures so I was spending more time with the car, and the relationship came to an end with me 1/2 way underneath the car trying to fix the brakes, and the girl friend running out of the garage. I really miss that car....
Actually I've lost girl friends over cars, when I was in high school I was restoring a Datsun 280Z and well I kept having random failures so I was spending more time with the car, and the relationship came to an end with me 1/2 way underneath the car trying to fix the brakes, and the girl friend running out of the garage. I really miss that car....
06-19-2002, 04:11 PM
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[quote]Originally posted by Toolmaster:
<strong>Try taking her with you... </strong><hr></blockquote>
AMEN, Brother! Since day one have been in the Porsche racing thing *together* with the wife - not for the same reason, she was interested from the start - but it works out well.
Just don't let her beat you - repeat after me: "Let me adjust the tire pressure for driving style, dearest."
Even if she doesn't drive, she won't miss the boyish gleem and face full of grin when you come back in. Some wives even enjoy the groupie and track-mom aspect - wanting to help out with stuff, and fixing cool track food - that's more excuse to get those really nifty Tupperware containers she can't convince you of yet.
Wheel-to-wheel racing is a whole different matter - especially after she'd seen a few crashes!
If all else fails - tell her it really is "Driver's Education", without it - you might perish if the skills required to avoid an accident are ever needed.
Lastly, if the phrase "better-than-sex" is really true, then she need not worry about your itch to stray.
Good Luck!
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<strong>Try taking her with you... </strong><hr></blockquote>
AMEN, Brother! Since day one have been in the Porsche racing thing *together* with the wife - not for the same reason, she was interested from the start - but it works out well.
Just don't let her beat you - repeat after me: "Let me adjust the tire pressure for driving style, dearest."
Even if she doesn't drive, she won't miss the boyish gleem and face full of grin when you come back in. Some wives even enjoy the groupie and track-mom aspect - wanting to help out with stuff, and fixing cool track food - that's more excuse to get those really nifty Tupperware containers she can't convince you of yet.
Wheel-to-wheel racing is a whole different matter - especially after she'd seen a few crashes!
If all else fails - tell her it really is "Driver's Education", without it - you might perish if the skills required to avoid an accident are ever needed.
Lastly, if the phrase "better-than-sex" is really true, then she need not worry about your itch to stray.
Good Luck!
Skip
06-19-2002, 04:12 PM
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oh yeah,i bought her a brand new house this year too!! <img src="graemlins/beerchug.gif" border="0" alt="[cheers]" /> <img src="graemlins/beerchug.gif" border="0" alt="[cheers]" /> <img src="graemlins/burnout.gif" border="0" alt="[burnout]" />
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Step 1) never question anything she buys !
Step 2) does she really need to know every dollar you spend.
Step 3) always make sure your honey do's are up to date.
I am lucky, my wife is some what understanding with my current rebuild, but then again she does not know the exact dollars I am spending.
I blew mine up at a DE DOH !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good Luck
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Step 2) does she really need to know every dollar you spend.
Step 3) always make sure your honey do's are up to date.
I am lucky, my wife is some what understanding with my current rebuild, but then again she does not know the exact dollars I am spending.
I blew mine up at a DE DOH !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good Luck
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[quote]Originally posted by deepice:
<strong>I have found that as long as there are no external changes to the car she has no clue what is under the hood. I also don't have parts deliverd to the house.</strong><hr></blockquote>
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That's pretty funny. Thanks for all of the suggestions guys. Unfortunately (or fortunately, however you want to look at it) I'm always doing great stuff for her...hot air balloon rides, cooking classes, surprise trips...etc. I don't want to gross you out, but you get the idea. Haven't gone the exotic oils route though. I'll try bringing her to a DE event, but I have little faith that she'll get into it. It is always sexy to see her driving the car though! (we have to switch cars on days I go mtn biking) And as far as compromises I've already bent over backwards (I should be a freaking contortionist!) for her obsession, our house. For the past year and three months I have been pouring blood, sweat, and MONEY into the casa. It will be done July 4th. And I'm always honest with her about everything. Well I guess I answered my own question...just have to wait a few months and the disposable income will be back up to normal. Sounds like I should point out all of the time and money we've been putting toward her desires. I've only had the car a few months, but the lure of the track is strong! And my buddy just got a WRX, so I've got a partner in crime.
<strong>I have found that as long as there are no external changes to the car she has no clue what is under the hood. I also don't have parts deliverd to the house.</strong><hr></blockquote>
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That's pretty funny. Thanks for all of the suggestions guys. Unfortunately (or fortunately, however you want to look at it) I'm always doing great stuff for her...hot air balloon rides, cooking classes, surprise trips...etc. I don't want to gross you out, but you get the idea. Haven't gone the exotic oils route though. I'll try bringing her to a DE event, but I have little faith that she'll get into it. It is always sexy to see her driving the car though! (we have to switch cars on days I go mtn biking) And as far as compromises I've already bent over backwards (I should be a freaking contortionist!) for her obsession, our house. For the past year and three months I have been pouring blood, sweat, and MONEY into the casa. It will be done July 4th. And I'm always honest with her about everything. Well I guess I answered my own question...just have to wait a few months and the disposable income will be back up to normal. Sounds like I should point out all of the time and money we've been putting toward her desires. I've only had the car a few months, but the lure of the track is strong! And my buddy just got a WRX, so I've got a partner in crime.
