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12-19-2014, 12:43 AM
#31
Nordschleife Master
Its just boys talking when wife's not around, I am sure.
I actually begged her into driving it once. Since she does not drive standard, I pulled over on the 400 North at the top of the down hill, explained what clutch does, let the car roll, then 3rd and then 6th gear. She loved it. She said something about feeling the kind of control that she never felt driving a car before (even though she has her Cayenne S). However when we got off the highway and stopped at the light, she couldn't get it moving again. She refuses to try again.
I actually begged her into driving it once. Since she does not drive standard, I pulled over on the 400 North at the top of the down hill, explained what clutch does, let the car roll, then 3rd and then 6th gear. She loved it. She said something about feeling the kind of control that she never felt driving a car before (even though she has her Cayenne S). However when we got off the highway and stopped at the light, she couldn't get it moving again. She refuses to try again.
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12-19-2014, 01:04 AM
#32
Real good topic, interesting comments.
Looks like very few drive or consider driving a MT car.
My wife not interested in learning, although I have encouraged her on a number of occasions to learn at a school specializing in manuals.
She was instrumental in purchasing the TT and even initiated the thought of getting a "summer car".
She's very happy driving her X6, I love it too.
Looks like very few drive or consider driving a MT car.
My wife not interested in learning, although I have encouraged her on a number of occasions to learn at a school specializing in manuals.
She was instrumental in purchasing the TT and even initiated the thought of getting a "summer car".
She's very happy driving her X6, I love it too.
12-19-2014, 07:33 AM
#33
Team Owner
maybe i should rephrase the question. i don't mind if wifey drives it (once) but as long as she hates it (which she wont). i dont want her to drive it - its my toy. im tired of owning various power tools and bits-who cares anymore. lets have some real fun. the kitchen is hers, the appliances, the molding of the kids minds, my wine selection from the LCBO, she selected the color of the granite, whats for christmas dinner, ......you get the idea. i need coaching. So, the question should be what type of phrasing/comments (anything) should i use that is diplomatic and LOVING!!!!!! I hate myself at this point- only for a second. I dont want a family law attorney thinking he's my best and newest friend.
12-19-2014, 08:10 AM
#34
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Yah, it takes time and confidence. Both have to be nurtured and can easily be put down and laughed at when it isn't done right which results in people easily giving up on it. It's a craft for sure even people who have done it for 20 years most likely never had to learn how to rev match or perfect a heel and toe down shift under braking. Hence, why we have the PDK and the ultimate men's Viagra for poor driving.
12-19-2014, 10:08 AM
#35
Three Wheelin'
the kitchen is hers, the appliances, the molding of the kids minds, my wine selection from the LCBO, she selected the color of the granite, whats for christmas dinner, ......you get the idea.
i need coaching.
So, the question should be what type of phrasing/comments (anything) should i use that is diplomatic and LOVING!!!!!! I hate myself at this point- only for a second.
I dont want a family law attorney thinking he's my best and newest friend.
12-19-2014, 10:23 AM
#36
Three Wheelin'
My wife loves driving my summer cars. She is really good at it too. Match rev down shifts and all. I actually came home early one day and she was taking off in one of them. I looked over at her and she rolled her window down and gave me this blank stare as if oh oh.... I laughed and said have fun.
12-19-2014, 01:41 PM
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Actually, my wife used to own/drive a manual transmission pickup truck. I didn't view that as a threat to my masculinity. She swapped it for a van once we had kids. She just has no interest in driving my Porsche.
12-19-2014, 02:30 PM
#38
.................and John Wayne rides over the mountain and looks down and sees the ICEMAN and 99Three in the field, so he yells out “Life is hard: it’s harder if you’re stupid”.
I love your comments; have a pair of ***** and I’m ***** whipped- very direct and to the point. You just don’t see this behaviour in society anymore. You have opened many doors with these comments- I won’t go there since it will enviably lead to confusion and misunderstanding.
From your reply, either I am truly whipped and neutered, and no longer have any ability other than to raise my hand at the kitchen table awaiting my wife’s approval & consent for me to purchase the weekly groceries; or you gentlemen, don’t understand the family dynamics of 4 kids and 1 professional wife and a selfish husband who exhibits symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder by pulling the trigger for his dream car (997 911 TT) and ignoring all other reality other than my own grandiose; or maybe you don’t understand what I was searching for in this thread/ or failed to provide the necessary description. Hopefully this helps.
Have you ever heard of the camels nose in the tent. Here’s a copy and paste version. One day an Arab and his camel were crossing the desert. Night came and the temperature became colder. The Arab put up his tent and tied the camel to it. The Arab went to sleep.
The temperature became slightly colder and the camel asked the Arab if he (camel) could just put his nose in the tent to warm up. The Arab agreed that the camel could just put his nose in, because the tent was small and there was no room for 2. So the camel's nose became warm and after a while the temperature went down even more.
The camel asked the Arab again, if he (camel) could just put his fore legs in because they were very cold. The Arab reluctantly agreed that the camel could only put his fore legs in and no more. So the camel moved in his fore legs and they became warm. After sometime the camel asked the Arab again that he had to put in his hind legs or else he won't be able to make the journey the next morning with frozen legs. So the Arab agreed and once the camel moved his hind legs in, there was no more room in the tent for the Arab and the Arab was kicked out.
Now, since I recently purchased the car, I have removed all the kids skates/hockey epqt, Halloween items, Christmas decorations, mason jars, chairs, etc.....from the garage and back into the house. Lots of changes in the bsmt (mentally and physically without her opinion). The new car is in the garage and the garage is full of man toys. I’m happy and she’s pissed – no one set up a meeting to let her know what was going to happen.
I need harmony and peace in the house and at the same time, I have to downplay the excitement of the car.
There have been many great suggestions and appreciate everyone who has commented.
This 1 is for you 993 and Iceman- another great John Wayne statement, ““Women have the right to work wherever they want, as long as they have the dinner ready when YOU get home"
Times when men were men.
12-19-2014, 03:38 PM
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But seriously, I would NEVER bring up what you listed above as a plausible argument. In her mind she *HAS* to make all those decisions because she can't rely on you to make them properly. Everything you listed is WORK in her mind. She also thinks you are not contributing because all you care about is that stupid car... be a sounding board for the decisions for her, be involved with her on the family decisions, and she will let you have as many cars as you can afford.
...and when people claim you are whipped, reply with: "Yeup, but only the evenings where we have time!" and wink at them...
12-19-2014, 03:51 PM
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PPo you are a very wise man. 
12-19-2014, 10:21 PM
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.................you don’t understand the family dynamics of 4 kids and 1 professional wife and a selfish husband who exhibits symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder by pulling the trigger for his dream car (997 911 TT) and ignoring all other reality other than my own grandiose......
Have you ever heard of the camels nose in the tent. Here’s a copy and paste version. One day an Arab and his camel were crossing the desert. Night came and the temperature became colder. The Arab put up his tent and tied the camel to it. The Arab went to sleep.
The temperature became slightly colder and the camel asked the Arab if he (camel) could just put his nose in the tent to warm up. The Arab agreed that the camel could just put his nose in, because the tent was small and there was no room for 2. So the camel's nose became warm and after a while the temperature went down even more.
The camel asked the Arab again, if he (camel) could just put his fore legs in because they were very cold. The Arab reluctantly agreed that the camel could only put his fore legs in and no more. So the camel moved in his fore legs and they became warm. After sometime the camel asked the Arab again that he had to put in his hind legs or else he won't be able to make the journey the next morning with frozen legs. So the Arab agreed and once the camel moved his hind legs in, there was no more room in the tent for the Arab and the Arab was kicked out.
Now, since I recently purchased the car, I have removed all the kids skates/hockey epqt, Halloween items, Christmas decorations, mason jars, chairs, etc.....from the garage and back into the house. Lots of changes in the bsmt (mentally and physically without her opinion). The new car is in the garage and the garage is full of man toys. I’m happy and she’s pissed – no one set up a meeting to let her know what was going to happen.
I need harmony and peace in the house and at the same time, I have to downplay the excitement of the car.
There have been many great suggestions and appreciate everyone who has commented.
This 1 is for you 993 and Iceman- another great John Wayne statement, ““Women have the right to work wherever they want, as long as they have the dinner ready when YOU get home"
Times when men were men.
Have you ever heard of the camels nose in the tent. Here’s a copy and paste version. One day an Arab and his camel were crossing the desert. Night came and the temperature became colder. The Arab put up his tent and tied the camel to it. The Arab went to sleep.
The temperature became slightly colder and the camel asked the Arab if he (camel) could just put his nose in the tent to warm up. The Arab agreed that the camel could just put his nose in, because the tent was small and there was no room for 2. So the camel's nose became warm and after a while the temperature went down even more.
The camel asked the Arab again, if he (camel) could just put his fore legs in because they were very cold. The Arab reluctantly agreed that the camel could only put his fore legs in and no more. So the camel moved in his fore legs and they became warm. After sometime the camel asked the Arab again that he had to put in his hind legs or else he won't be able to make the journey the next morning with frozen legs. So the Arab agreed and once the camel moved his hind legs in, there was no more room in the tent for the Arab and the Arab was kicked out.
Now, since I recently purchased the car, I have removed all the kids skates/hockey epqt, Halloween items, Christmas decorations, mason jars, chairs, etc.....from the garage and back into the house. Lots of changes in the bsmt (mentally and physically without her opinion). The new car is in the garage and the garage is full of man toys. I’m happy and she’s pissed – no one set up a meeting to let her know what was going to happen.
I need harmony and peace in the house and at the same time, I have to downplay the excitement of the car.
There have been many great suggestions and appreciate everyone who has commented.
This 1 is for you 993 and Iceman- another great John Wayne statement, ““Women have the right to work wherever they want, as long as they have the dinner ready when YOU get home"
Times when men were men.