GIANT fight with wife, I think the c4s has to go
06-05-2009, 10:49 PM
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What are her specific reasons why she wants you to sell it? Selling it for a HUGE loss, which is all but inevitable and then ... buying a cheaper 993 doesn't make any sense to me. Selling it and that's it, no more car, that makes sense to me. Talking her into "letting you" keep it, makes even more sense, but it may not be an option to stay happily married. In the end, a happy marriage is the most important thing. Why, though, is she pushing so hard for you to sell? You need the money now?
That's my potential situation. Loss of job, still haven't found a job = may be selling car in 6-9 months.
Hopefully not. I am holding out as hard as possible to keep my car. I LOVE my car!
Good luck with the sale if you sell. What did you buy it for and what do you think it's worth in this dreadful market?
Steve R
That's my potential situation. Loss of job, still haven't found a job = may be selling car in 6-9 months.
Hopefully not. I am holding out as hard as possible to keep my car. I LOVE my car!
Good luck with the sale if you sell. What did you buy it for and what do you think it's worth in this dreadful market?
Steve R
06-05-2009, 11:52 PM
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I just can not take one more day of her giving me a hard time about the 50k toy that gets driven 2k miles a year. I know everyone will say get rid of her but we have two kids under 3.
I think I have two options, sell the car or get into a higher millage c2. I will post a for sale/trade listing tomorrow after I take some current photos. I purchased this car about 1 year ago at the height of the market with only 20k miles, so I am sure I will take a bit of a betting. The truly sad thing is I have some great parts that never even made it on the car(x-pipe, pss9's, and tons of stereo gear).
I think I have two options, sell the car or get into a higher millage c2. I will post a for sale/trade listing tomorrow after I take some current photos. I purchased this car about 1 year ago at the height of the market with only 20k miles, so I am sure I will take a bit of a betting. The truly sad thing is I have some great parts that never even made it on the car(x-pipe, pss9's, and tons of stereo gear).
06-06-2009, 12:42 AM
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Wife gave me one rule when we got together:
- I can buy what I want as long as it doesn't lower her standard of living.
That works to your advantage if you don't increase her standard of living as your salaries increase.
OH CRAP. She just read this.
I have to go sell my 993 now.
Frank
- I can buy what I want as long as it doesn't lower her standard of living.
That works to your advantage if you don't increase her standard of living as your salaries increase.
OH CRAP. She just read this.
I have to go sell my 993 now.
Frank
06-06-2009, 01:20 AM
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06-06-2009, 09:05 AM
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Something is wrong here.
First off, did you have this car before the marriage?
Second, as others have noted, are you in financial straights?
Third, are you happy with this woman, and just as important, is she happy with you?
By the way you make her sound, demanding you sell your toy, your marriage sounds miserable and doomed anyway.
Guys, I know how important family is, particularly when young children are involved, but why be miserable your whole life? Usually, children are better off with a separated Mom and Dad than together, constantly fighting and bickering.
I say dump the wife and get a good attorney, even if it costs you your car. Get away from this mad woman and get one who understands you.
Good luck. Either way, you'll need it.
Sorry, gotta be cruel to be kind.
First off, did you have this car before the marriage?
Second, as others have noted, are you in financial straights?
Third, are you happy with this woman, and just as important, is she happy with you?
By the way you make her sound, demanding you sell your toy, your marriage sounds miserable and doomed anyway.
Guys, I know how important family is, particularly when young children are involved, but why be miserable your whole life? Usually, children are better off with a separated Mom and Dad than together, constantly fighting and bickering.
I say dump the wife and get a good attorney, even if it costs you your car. Get away from this mad woman and get one who understands you.
Good luck. Either way, you'll need it.
Sorry, gotta be cruel to be kind.
06-06-2009, 09:54 AM
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I agree that it was a dumb thread to start, the funny thing is look at how many hits it has gotten. I have only started a couple of threads and this one seems to have a life of it's own. I will post another more specific thread with the car details soon.
06-06-2009, 10:35 AM
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All I can say is that I made sure to pick a car wife.
Let's put it this way, she has given me an ok to buy a Lamborghini Gallardo (used) and lower our standard of living a bit over it. We even spent 2 of our precious Europe trip days at the Lamborghini and Ferrari factories!
She has also hinted that she wants an M3 for her next car but she'd settle for an IS-F or a 335i convertible.
Now that is what I call a keeper!
I don't think selling the car is the answer. I think it is something more than the car. It is probably what it represents. She thinks that you are more concerned with the cars wellbeing (free from the smallest scratch or some additional miles) than hers.
Start driving the wheels off, let it get dirty now and again and make sure your wife feels she is more important than the car. I think it would be a non-issue.
Let's put it this way, she has given me an ok to buy a Lamborghini Gallardo (used) and lower our standard of living a bit over it. We even spent 2 of our precious Europe trip days at the Lamborghini and Ferrari factories!
She has also hinted that she wants an M3 for her next car but she'd settle for an IS-F or a 335i convertible.
Now that is what I call a keeper!
I don't think selling the car is the answer. I think it is something more than the car. It is probably what it represents. She thinks that you are more concerned with the cars wellbeing (free from the smallest scratch or some additional miles) than hers.
Start driving the wheels off, let it get dirty now and again and make sure your wife feels she is more important than the car. I think it would be a non-issue.
06-06-2009, 11:02 AM
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Here's a thought:
My wife wants a new house. I like the idea of a new house, but really like my itty bitty mortgage on the one we have. My wife and I go back and forth for a couple of years on this. I finally tell her we can buy a new one if we sell our house for $X, X being a reasonable price. The sign goes in the yard, wife has a focus on selling, wife is very happy! House has been on the market for a year now. No offers...Wife still happy, me still happy.
So the moral is: Agree to sell the car. List it for sale at a reasonable price, where you don't lose too much money. If it sells, you're not stung too badly. If it doesn't, well....
My wife wants a new house. I like the idea of a new house, but really like my itty bitty mortgage on the one we have. My wife and I go back and forth for a couple of years on this. I finally tell her we can buy a new one if we sell our house for $X, X being a reasonable price. The sign goes in the yard, wife has a focus on selling, wife is very happy! House has been on the market for a year now. No offers...Wife still happy, me still happy.
So the moral is: Agree to sell the car. List it for sale at a reasonable price, where you don't lose too much money. If it sells, you're not stung too badly. If it doesn't, well....
