Hello guy's,

kind of related to my earlier nonsensical rant which I had made.

A lot of stress and familly problems (I believe) resulted in the death of my Father.

He collapsed yesterday of a "Sudden Cardiac Arrest" and died instantly, however he was not discovered for several hours as he had laid in a hidden pathway near a church (on mavis and matthison)

Mom & Dad ar ment to go back in about 5 more weeks.

I'm trying to decide wether to repatriate him back to the UK or do something here. He has travel insurance and I believe everything should be covered.

I'm not too sure on storage etc. between now and then.
Cancellation of travel tickets, cause of death documents etc etc

How Canadians do things are slighly different.

I'm also looking for a good funeral home, to help me (and not rip me off)
Cloest to me is Lee Funeral Home on Queen Street South

Any advice on or off board would be greatly appreciated

thanks

 

Adrian, I don't know how to help, but I'm really sorry to hear this. My sincere condolences to you and yours.

 

Sorry for your loss.

Losing a dad sucks.

 

Adrian, very sorry hear of the loss of your father. I lost my Dad a few years ago and I realize your difficulty. PM sent.

 

Geeezzz Adrian....My sincere condolences to you, your Mom, and your family.......Bill

 

Adrian - my condolences to you and your family.

 

Thanks guys, I just wanna share this with you



My father, came to Canada not to die but to visit and see his beloved grand daughter (in the words of mom at the hospital) whom he had not seen since birth (due to distance) till now at 6 months. He only managed to spend 11 days with her.

Dad was out for a walk and had a "sudden cardiac arrest" and death was instantaneous, the coroner advised me that he was almost certainly not even aware of what had happened, as it had occurred mid-stride and therefore was unconscious before he hit the sidewalk.

As Dad had taken a short cut through a church car park he was not discovered for several hours, hence why we where worried when he did not return on time. A passerby rang 911 and attempted CPR but he had no pulse and when the paramedics arrived he was already dead, they continued to work on him though and took him to hospital where they continued to do so. He was then pronounced DOA.

I only found out as I had been ringing his mobile and eventually a nurse answered the phone. I had not even thought as a diabetic to put our contact details on him for his Canada address, which was why we where not notified sooner, all he had was a note that he was a diabetic and his UK details. All his belongings, money, jewelry had not been touched (nearly $2k in cash).

He apparently had had indigestion pains for a while in the UK, but had not got this checked out, this apparently is a usual pre-warning sign especially with diabetics and older people. Dad was also at times very fatigued. So I would urge you to always consult a doctor if you have re-current issues. This may have been avoided had we known he had had a heart issue, it was also very probable that Dad had had a minor heart attack as well but may not have even known it.

There are so many things I didn't do with my Dad while he was here and so many things I did not say, even on the last morning that I saw him. We kept putting so many things off. As we had "PLENTY" of time for his 7 week break.

There where so many family issues which he needn't have been involved in but he was and this I feel added to the stress that was brought to his door over the past 5 months or so. A few days before there was a big argument, or at least a member of the familly in an argument verbally attacked his wife, for which it never really left him and he kept on replaying the scene oiver and over, he never got over this and wanted to leave early.

We never get back time that we have lost and my Father has been stolen from me and I only have myself to blame for not monopolising his time while he was here.

My Dad was a committed born again Christian, he accepted and received Jesus in his life and lived as close to the word as he could, I have no doubt Dad is with Jesus and singing his praises in person.

I have no idea at the moment of plans but we will probably repatriate Dad back to the UK.

 

Adrian, my deepest regrets on what happened. May you have the strength to deal with it.
Pm me anytime, if you'll need help with the funeral.


Stan

 

Very sorry to hear about this sad loss, Adrian. My condolences to you and your family.

 

My condolences to you and your family. I'm sure your dad cherished the 11 days with his grand daughter.

 

Very sorry to hear about your loss...

 

thankxs fellas,

woke up and another day in the trenches, just awaiting insurance confirmations then need to talk about storage and funeral homes,
so may PM, reply to PM,s sent soon

thankxs fellas

A

 

Never met you Adrian, but my sincere condolences to you and your family.

 

We haven't met either, but very sorry to hear of your loss, that's a tough situation.

 

Thanks guy's

Going to see 3 funeral homes tommorow to get some questions prices etc.

I actually feellike a bit of a cheap skate, problem is I'm not stoked and Dad (if we repatriate will cost etc), at least a 2 week wait for confirmation of dads insurance

Not wanting to sound like a real Wanka

Dad at present is in the hospital Morgue and the offical leaving would be at least 5 weeks or so, am sure the hospital morturay will not charge me

How long can I keep him there, if a funeral home takes him they I assume will charge for storage, the other option is to fly dad home straight away and let a funeral home deal with him there, but again, somone needs to go there to deal with the insurance etc. as that is goig to have a cost etc.

does this make sense? any iddeas?