What makes people so rude?
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One day after returning from overseas with my second Porsche, a 911, I was at a gas station in Kentucky I think it was and someone said to me, "nice car." No one had ever said that to me about a car. I didn't even know what to say. (This was in 1978). Don't expect it and it will be better than to expect it.
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dont bother with what others have to say about your car.
i go out of my way to hide my cars so no one knows they are mine. including my parents and wife.
i go out of my way to hide my cars so no one knows they are mine. including my parents and wife.
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I really don't understand how not complimenting you on your car is rude. Not everyone is all that impressed with/interested in cars. Even if they drive nice cars themselves, they may just not be all that much into cars as things to be admired.
A better question to ask might be why are you so troubled by someone not complimenting you on your car? Did you buy it for you to enjoy, or for you to enjoy impressing people with it?
A better question to ask might be why are you so troubled by someone not complimenting you on your car? Did you buy it for you to enjoy, or for you to enjoy impressing people with it?
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I really don't understand how not complimenting you on your car is rude. Not everyone is all that impressed with/interested in cars. Even if they drive nice cars themselves, they may just not be all that much into cars as things to be admired.
A better question to ask might be why are you so troubled by someone not complimenting you on your car? Did you buy it for you to enjoy, or for you to enjoy impressing people with it?
A better question to ask might be why are you so troubled by someone not complimenting you on your car? Did you buy it for you to enjoy, or for you to enjoy impressing people with it?
To reiterate what others have said, it appears that you were expecting and looking for compliments. And when none came your way you felt slighted, and thought it was rude of them not to give you what you apparently wanted so badly. Maybe they sensed you were desperately looking for compliments and held back - others can sense that, you know - which would explain the rudeness perception on your part. Or maybe they didn't think it was a big deal at all or that it was even appropriate to lavish attention on a material object on the holiest Christian holiday?
The thing is, don't act like it's a big deal having a new car. Act like you would if you walked in there wearing a new pair of shoes, hoping no one notices or compliments you on your new leather -- as if you've never owned a new pair of shoes! Act as though you own several new cars and this one just happened to be the one you drove today.
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+1. Most of my relatives completely ignore it, too or even have negative things to say, except for my brother who loves it! Of course he has a new 987S on order, and has 2 vintage Ferraris - a 330GTC and a 246GTS. And no, I don't ignore his cars 
They're simply incredible.
Bottom line, don't try to get your relatives on your side with this - just enjoy what you have and take pleasure from that.
They're simply incredible. Bottom line, don't try to get your relatives on your side with this - just enjoy what you have and take pleasure from that.
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First of all... great car.
Secondly, and I'm not trying to be an *** but... why do you really care that they don't compliment the car? That's not rude. It would be rude if they suggested that you bought the car as a compensation for something else. It would be rude if they said that you bought a piece of crap. But not complimenting you? That's not rude.
Enjoy the car and forget about what others do or don't think.
Secondly, and I'm not trying to be an *** but... why do you really care that they don't compliment the car? That's not rude. It would be rude if they suggested that you bought the car as a compensation for something else. It would be rude if they said that you bought a piece of crap. But not complimenting you? That's not rude.
Enjoy the car and forget about what others do or don't think.
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I'm still waiting for my wife to say something nice about my car. I could care less about what the rest of the world thinks. As far as your situation-women don't dig cars as much as we do. It's very much like what goes through our minds (blank) when she is holding two purses and asks which one looks better on her.