Married/Partner question
08-08-2016, 08:34 AM
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I am very blessed to have a extremely supportive wife. I never really found the 'right' time to purchase the 'right' car until two years ago. I have not had too many issues. I consider myself lucky to have located a local example with lots of previous work. This Saturday I installed my newly purchased jumppost cover (so I will avoid ridicule at Frenzy) and installed a new JVC single DIN bluetooth unit.
I have my vice, she has her's. I Kinda find things to tinker on while she is out shopping. The best experience is when we take the 928 shopping and she experiences the thumbs up from passers by!
I have my vice, she has her's. I Kinda find things to tinker on while she is out shopping. The best experience is when we take the 928 shopping and she experiences the thumbs up from passers by!
08-08-2016, 09:08 AM
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Whatever she wants to do.
08-08-2016, 09:28 AM
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Ohhhh this will be fun!!!!
I have only just brought my first 928 home to start "wrenching", however when I do I know Tania will "pop in" to the garage every now and then with coffee and food, as she did when I spent hours working on my motorbike, there will, however, come a time...when the "list" has grown just a tad too large...
I really dread the "list"... it curtails coffee and food just like that! should it grow too large...in fact it has the potential to curtail everything...
The "list" is really the reason I took my time in finding a 928 that had been well kept and up to date maintenance wise, I was immediately suspicious when Tanz started getting overly excited about the 928 I had finally found, in fact she went out of her way for me to buy it...I then spent even more hours beside Tanz in the lounge reading this Forum, of course I made mention of the impending doom that may occur should I not replace the aging fuel lines and other rubbery things, I am cunning, like really cunning, and made mention of these things whilst she was engrossed in another episode of Suits or similar, that gives me leverage when she hands me that flippin "list", well I did tell you darling...remember
In all seriousness she is one cool easy going chick!!!
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SCOTT, what would yours do?
I have only just brought my first 928 home to start "wrenching", however when I do I know Tania will "pop in" to the garage every now and then with coffee and food, as she did when I spent hours working on my motorbike, there will, however, come a time...when the "list" has grown just a tad too large...
I really dread the "list"... it curtails coffee and food just like that! should it grow too large...in fact it has the potential to curtail everything...
The "list" is really the reason I took my time in finding a 928 that had been well kept and up to date maintenance wise, I was immediately suspicious when Tanz started getting overly excited about the 928 I had finally found, in fact she went out of her way for me to buy it...I then spent even more hours beside Tanz in the lounge reading this Forum, of course I made mention of the impending doom that may occur should I not replace the aging fuel lines and other rubbery things, I am cunning, like really cunning, and made mention of these things whilst she was engrossed in another episode of Suits or similar, that gives me leverage when she hands me that flippin "list", well I did tell you darling...remember
In all seriousness she is one cool easy going chick!!!
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SCOTT, what would yours do?
08-08-2016, 12:29 PM
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My ex was on Face Book tracking down random men to cheat on me with, and spending all of my money until I lost everything I had worked my entire life for. As you can see she remained very productive while I was busy tinkering on or detailing the GT.
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08-08-2016, 12:33 PM
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On the advice of my attorney, I decline to comment on domestic affairs. 
08-08-2016, 01:25 PM
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None of us are licensed counselors I suspect, and those that are will choose to say nothing until an agreement for services is signed. I'll share experience, without any suggestion that my situation relates to yours in any way.
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[Therapy Mode]
K has her passions, and I support them fully. When there's a worklist of things that need to be done to support her efforts and interests, it becomes mine. It's pretty much part of the deal. She's a CPA, so if I'm home during tax season, I get to bring her meals and do whatever support stuff is needed. Charities and fund-raisers, her social causes, all get my whole-hearted support.
In return, she's been more than supportive of things I like to do. That includes caring for toys and such. She helps cater clinic days, graciously tolerates having new visitors wandering into the powder room, etc. She's also warming up very quickly to the local PCA group, something that didn't happen when we were in SoCal.
I think the key is some balance, where she has free reign to play golf and go do things with her professional and personal friends without any questions. She gets support for all her activities. There's then reciprocity, which I treasure.
And, as I've shared more than several times previously, a decades-old expensive car is not for the faint of wallet. When your mate comes to think that your car or anything else you do is unfairly taking time or money that they feel they and the rest of the family unit deserve, you are doomed. Work out your time and money budgets together in advance, and stick to them. If it means delaying a project a bit, so be it.
No car project is worth a divorce, according to many expert victims I know. If the car is a sore spot, brought up in ANY argument, dump the car quickly. It's way cheaper than the alternative.
[/therapy mode]
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[Therapy Mode]
K has her passions, and I support them fully. When there's a worklist of things that need to be done to support her efforts and interests, it becomes mine. It's pretty much part of the deal. She's a CPA, so if I'm home during tax season, I get to bring her meals and do whatever support stuff is needed. Charities and fund-raisers, her social causes, all get my whole-hearted support.
In return, she's been more than supportive of things I like to do. That includes caring for toys and such. She helps cater clinic days, graciously tolerates having new visitors wandering into the powder room, etc. She's also warming up very quickly to the local PCA group, something that didn't happen when we were in SoCal.
I think the key is some balance, where she has free reign to play golf and go do things with her professional and personal friends without any questions. She gets support for all her activities. There's then reciprocity, which I treasure.
And, as I've shared more than several times previously, a decades-old expensive car is not for the faint of wallet. When your mate comes to think that your car or anything else you do is unfairly taking time or money that they feel they and the rest of the family unit deserve, you are doomed. Work out your time and money budgets together in advance, and stick to them. If it means delaying a project a bit, so be it.
No car project is worth a divorce, according to many expert victims I know. If the car is a sore spot, brought up in ANY argument, dump the car quickly. It's way cheaper than the alternative.
[/therapy mode]
08-08-2016, 02:37 PM
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Anyone notice the female thought process is not linear ?
some days its why don't you just go buy a new Porsche
some days its you bought more parts !
some days its do you need anything for the car ?
All the time you need to keep in mind ,she is number 1
some days its why don't you just go buy a new Porsche
some days its you bought more parts !
some days its do you need anything for the car ?
All the time you need to keep in mind ,she is number 1
