TaboII

Hello to all, I am so sorry that this is of topic but I feel so alone right now I do not know what else to do. My mother died suddenly this weekend of a massive heart attack. She was the best woman in my life. I loved her dearly and she will be very sadly missed. The horrific thing about this whole thing is that we had not spoken except for very brief periods of time in the past few months because of a disagreement. I could not feel more grief stricken to think that I could have talked to her more and been more of a forgiving person than I was. It will take the rest of my life if ever to get beyond the fact that I was so selfish as not to have even taken the time to just tell her that I loved her. If it is not to much to ask please take the time today and let your mothers know just how much they mean to you and tell them you love them very much. This is a lesson that I whish I could have understood before this weekend. I hope that in some small way my own mother know knows just how very much she meant to me.

In loving Memory Vanette Eve Mochida 1949 - 2002

Her son Keith Mochida

elf89

Keith,

I'm so sorry to hear about your Mother. I'm sure she knows how much you love and miss her. I'll be thinking of you and your family this week.

Eric

Bob S. 1984 Silver

Sorry to hear of your loss. I am old enough that I have lost both my parents; one to a massive heart attack and the other to age. I remember the guilt I felt as well. So many things I should have or could havedone. Hindsight is always 20-20. It is a normal reaction.

I will remember both you and your mom in my prayers.

There was once a king who called his wise men together. His order was they were to write a speech for him that would be not only short but also applicable to all situations, whether the circumstance be a happy one, a sad one, a tragedy or a celebration. They puzzled over this order from the king, a most difficult puzzle. Time passed and the wise men labored over the problem. Finally they came up with something and brought it to the king.

The king read their speech and smiled. "This is exactly what I asked for," he said.

On the paper were the following words...

"And this too will pass."

Bob S.

IanM

Keith,
My greatest condolences go out to you and your family. You sound like a good person, and I'm sure your Mother knew how much you loved her. The love between a mother and child goes far deeper than can be altered by a disagreement. Even if you hadn't talked for awhile, she still knew how you felt and how you still feel. Try to remember that.
Best Regards,
Ian

BRB_85.5_NA

Keith--

I clicked on this post thinking it was going to be another diatribe on a wrecked or burned 951, but you have now put all this in perspective. I lost my father when I was 18 to a heart attack; he was and in some ways still is the most important person in my life. All I can say is that the terrible heartache you feel right now shows how much you loved her and that will never change and you won't want it to. Sure, things will get less raw, but when I read your post I lost it because it reminded me of losing my dad 13 years ago. Don't beat yourself up over a disagreement or not talking to her and telling her how much you loved her. I take your advice to heart, and in getting us all to think about our loved ones you have already shown tremendous generosity and concern to people you don't even know. If that's the case, then your mother must have been the most loved woman on the planet.

My dad always wanted to own a Porsche...

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Perry 951

As alone as you feel, we are a community, for support if not anything else. As previously said, I am sure your mother knows that you love hear dearly, and you should know a mothers love is unconditional anf forever. God bless her, you, and your family.

I thank god for the little time I spend with my family, knowing it could be the last. But by the grace of god shall I walk there.

Type_LT

Keith,

I often wonder how I will react to the passing of my parents, they are both in their 60's now and I have little time to spend with them. Despite their good health I always know that the unforseen could happen, and I know if anything did happen it would be very hard to take. One thing you can be sure of, there is a life after this one and you'll see your mother there. All of us have had disagreement's with our parents, periods of time where we don't get along or avoid each other. Try to focus on all the good times you had with your mother, I know it must be hard.

It's difficult to convey my condolences over the internet, my thoughts are with you.


Best wishes,

Nick

Dan in Pasadena

Very, very sorry to hear of your loss Keith.

I'm a lot closer to your mother's age than yours. I have two adult children of my own. Believe me, your Mom knew that you loved her.

If there is a refuge from the guilt you feel about the distance between you in her last months, in an odd way it is the very fact that you feel this bad! It means that you truly did love her and believe me, parents know what their children truly think of them. Your mother knew Keith, of that you can be certain.

As the other guy said, "This too shall pass" ,and remember to make an effort to live each day as though it is your last. Do not allow yourself to harbor ill feelings because they may be the last ones you feel.

Tabor

First let me say that I am very sorry for your loss.

Now, don't feel bad about what your did or did not say. Having personally lost someone who helped raise me (not technically a parent, but like a parent) I know the guilt you can feel. The guilt will always be there, with or without any actual reason to feel it. And it will eventually subside.

Take care.

Mike B

My sincere condolences to you Keith and your family...A sudden passing never seems to make any sense...Keep the thought with you that your Mother is in a better place and will be with you always...God bless you Keith.

John Welch

Keith,

Terribly sorry to hear of your loss. Try not to beat yourself up too much. Things happen in life, and it was just very bad timing that you weren't talking to her as much as you would have liked. Just know that your mother is now finding all of the answers to life on earth, and surely she knows how you feel.

Danno

Keith, sorry to hear about your mom. Mine was born in '49 as well and she died suddenly 10-years ago. I know you must be feeling the void and emptiness right now. It's perfectly normal and you're gonna be OK, hang in there buddy...

TaboII

Thank all of you for your supporting words. As difficult as this is for me right now having to deal with this. It is comforting to have so many people out ther who I can lean on.

I will be leaving for California probably tomorrow for the services. I will know this evening. Thank you all again for you kind and supporting words..

Keith M

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Keith,

I am sorry to hear about the loss. But remember that some things are still felt without the need for words, especially between a mother and son. I'm sure she knew how you truly felt.

Hang in there.
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Jim 944S

Dearest Keith,
Something all of us 53 year olds have learned... things could always have been done differently, there is no certainty that a situation would have turned out better, or that it would have turned out worse... just different.
Take the love that your Mother gave you, the things she taught you, and apply it to your life. Share it with those with whom you come in contact. A smile, a pat on the back, an encouraging word. Let another person know that they matter, that they are heard. Let people know that they are only expected to be human, and that they are loved anyway. Start by letting yourself know that... And share the love your Mother gave you. That would make any parent proud of their kid.
A safe journey to you, Keith.
Jim 1949-???? a cancer survivor who has learned: This mortality thing is going to be the death of us all!